I have a feeling that my grandpa was very surprise when I actually came over last night! I had such a great time, and you could tell him and Sue (Married my grandpa, but it's kinda weird to call her "grandma") were very happy to see me. They probably just thought..that I was just saying I'd be back, and then never show up. We ended up playing 2 games of Yahtzee! I don't know if anyone ever heard of this dice game, but we (mom, sister and I) always used to play, those times where my mom actually brought us over, and visited with her dad. To my surprise, and everyone else I won BOTH games, kicked their butt actually. I was so happy!!! Not only because I never play, but because they play every night. I got a score of 901, which their high score is 981..which made me feel really good, considering I wasn't even trying. I was just having fun with them, chatting and laughing!
We also discussed my sister's birthday party. I'm throwing a little get together with food, and presents at my grandpas house. She's going out to eat with my mom, later in the week. I figure since my mom and grandpa aren't getting along yet, we'd have it over there so they can be apart of her special day to. I will be buying pizzas, and making a cake for my sister. We talked about it last night, and we're already pretty excited by this.
Speaking of my mom and grandpa still not talking, I figured I would explain how that's going. A couple days ago, I told my mom I went to grandpa's and she asked me how that went. I told her it went really good and that I made a pact with myself to visit him every Thursday. She told me she was happy, but also her feelings about it and what happen. She doesn't think she should be the one to make the first move, because she doesn't feel like she did anything wrong. She feels like her dad treats Sue's daughter better than he EVER treated his own kids, this is partly true. But I tried explaining how maybe stepping in his shoes, and learning why he is the way he is might help her see that he has changed. There are some other issues involving this but it's too much to ramble on in a blog, and I feel like that's really not necessary. All I know that my grandpa has definitely changed in his old age, he's more lovable, compassionate, and open. He feels bad about all the stuff that happened, things that were said, etc but I think he's scared to make the first move because he doesn't know how my mom will react. She's very stubborn, and intimating sometimes (her bark is WAY bigger than her bite. She's really sensitive, and lovable) so he probably feels like it wont work anyways.
So pretty much I believe it's all about the first move, I think once they got over that...they would love each other again, it would be over. But it's getting them to that point. Last night I talked to my mom again after I was done visiting him, and she smiled and nodded, and didn't say anything negative, maybe she's leaning towards it? I don't know, but me and my sister are still trying to find a way where we can get them together. We'll come up with something, hopefully soon... this is nonsense.
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